PAIN AS A POSSIBLITY

Is our inability to cope with painful situations via our historic patterns a sign of our evolution toward wholeness?

It's a good question isn't it. I find this thought provoking, especially for women over 50. Is this just a different perspective on how I've been looking at things in my own life? Or is this a brand new level of inner awareness? What does it mean to move toward healing as oppose to moving away from it?

Pain presents a possibility to learn. It's not a liability or a punishment, but a great teacher. We can choose to lean into the pain, to experience it "head on" instead of running away from it.

In my hypno-coaching practice I invite my clients to "step up to the plate and into their pain". In most cases, the monster in the closet isn't half as scary once it is let out. It is by keeping it locked up deep inside a dark well that makes it seem very powerful and strong.

Whatever you are hiding from yourself, running away from, afraid of, will eventually manifest into your reality. Moving toward wholeness and healing may mean that the seas get very stormy and that things get messy before they are cleaned up.

When we observe a painful situation or relationship, we can choose how much we wish to participate in it, what the lessons are and how to use the information for our own journey.

The intention of facing the fear will be enough to transform it. This means having a fearless attitude toward the monster at all times. The monster doesn't just go away, it is here to engage us, to teach us and to invite us to take back our power without falling victim to it's voracious appetite .

In my personal journey, I have made some very bad and destructive choices. I have also made some really great choices. To me, the most important aspect of all these choices is that they are entirely my own - all of them. And so are the lessons that accompany these choices. These were also chosen by me, even if that choice was subconscious, I must take full responsibility.

To move forward and let the past go involves complete forgiveness. To forgive does not mean that we condone or support everything that we've done or the painful things others have done. However, it does mean that we need to own it in order to move forward.

The most important journey we will take for our personal healing is the journey inward. Unless we know who we are, how can we possibly offer what we have?